What is most important to you? - Episode 2
What is most important to you? What do you value in your life? What are you spending most of your free time with? What do you spend most of your attention and energy on? On this podcast we talk about what our values in life are. Come join us as we dive deep on this topic of values.
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► 0:14 - What does Yuntaku Mean?
► 0:50 - Topic: What do you value in your life?
► 1:20 - Definition of Value
► 3:29 - Question 1: What is most important to me about who I am and about being alive?
► 12:26 - Question 2: What is my life's work or life's purpose? What needs to happen during my life so that I gave my gift, did what I was uniquely here to do, so that I mattered?
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Tamo 0:00
Make your life as beautiful, as harmonious as peaceful, as expressive, as passionate as you want.
Akko 0:11
This is your time with Akko and Tamo.
Tamo 0:14
So what does Yuntaku mean? Well, it's an Okinawan word, which means chit chat. We want to include you in this conversation. And not only that, we want to raise it raise the level, to explore new ways of thinking, new perspectives, and better ways to live life. We've been really working to love ourselves even more, to love each other, and our children. And so that is what we want you to take time to be to not only take the chit chat, but to take that chitchat to the next level.
Akko 0:49
Yes. And today's topic is, what do you value in your life?
Tamo 0:55
Wow, you bring up quite a deep topic already. Yeah. So thank you for that. I love these things. And for both of us, we've been taking a relationship course. Yes. And we've gotten quite a few questions from that course. And yeah, maybe we can you can ask me if I can ask you
Akko 1:16
and yet answer. Yeah, we just wanted to share what we've been learning. Let's define value. So what is value? Sure,
Tamo 1:23
sure. Sure. So we really love to talk about definitions first, just because for certain words, it may have certain meanings to people, right. So we want to be on the same track, so that we can make sure that we're talking about the same thing. And we're pointing at the the most accurate definition of the word. So for example, even if it's the word white, it can be off white. And ivory white. That's it. So and there's there's many types of white, right. And so we want to be as accurate as possible. So yeah, defining values. I think it's
Tamo 2:07
actually a difficult
Tamo 2:09
word to define. And I'm continually working on understanding what value is. But we're not talking about values in terms of money right now. But we're talking about in terms of our attention, right. So where is our attention? When it comes to what we value? What are we spending our time when we have free time? Right? So that's kind of how I'm seeing value. And values are something that we spend a lot of energy and our attention. And values are also something that sometimes it's so obvious that it's difficult to see, and it's usually hidden. So that's why I think the question that you bring up today, what do you value in your life is such a fantastic one, because we usually don't get time to think about Yeah, our values in life, right?
Unknown Speaker 2:59
especially nowadays,
Tamo 3:00
exactly, exactly. Like, what is it? Right. And we're so inundated with social media, or just work or even just browsing the web, there's so many ads that pop up, and it's very difficult to focus. And within that, to be able to go deep, and understand ourselves better is fantastic. So yeah, thank you so much for bringing that up.
Akko 3:19
Yeah, I guess Shall we get started?
Tamo 3:21
Sure. Sure. And so how about if I ask you a question and you can go ahead and answer Yeah. So what is most important to you, about who you are, and about being alive.
Akko 3:36
So what is most important to me, about who I am
Akko 3:43
and being alive, so
Akko 3:46
I am a very emotional based person, emotionally social. So I like to be connected with everyone. So I like the harmony of a lot of things. So being in harmony, being connected with the people I love, is one of the things that I do value. And another one is
Akko 4:10
being able to
Akko 4:13
Well, this is I guess, another harmony in a sense, in that I want my family to be living in a space where there's full of love. And I want to I want our, our children to grow up in a household that has so much love that. That it's pretty much overfilling I wrote one more thing down of living a life with understanding and non judgment. So living a life with understanding and non judgment. So that's something I also do value and I am working on
Akko 4:52
constantly, every day
Akko 4:56
and what is most important to with you about who you are, and about being alive.
Tamo 5:04
Yeah, yeah. Thank you. Um, before I answer that, I would love to kind of talk about your values. And let's go a little bit deeper. Yeah, yeah. So you, you mentioned that you are more of a kind of a harmony person, like emotional. And you enjoy kind of their social apps
Akko 5:26
aspects of life. I do. I do. I, you know, I like to be connected with people. I don't like fights or anything like that. I always try to resolve things. I mean, not to say that I'm, like, afraid of confrontation or anything like that. But I, I like harmony. I like people to get along, people to be understood. And that's just something that I always like to be worked on, or I'm working on. I'm working towards. Yeah, definitely.
Tamo 5:55
And, you know, even for us, we've been together for almost 10 years now. Right. It's pretty, it's getting there. Yeah, it's again, it's getting there. If you're not 100. Huh. In a good way. Yeah. And for me, wow, this is kind of interesting. that popped up. I I actually don't feel like it's long or short. But I don't you know, let me put it this way. I have. I don't even it doesn't even come up to me that I had a time without you.
Tamo 6:29
It's kind of weird. But uh, I think
Akko 6:31
I get it. I mean, I don't want to say it's timeless.
Tamo 6:35
But it kind of feels we've like we've been together. Period.
Akko 6:39
Yeah. Like I've known you for so long. And
Akko 6:43
I don't know. This is like normal.
Tamo 6:45
Right? What this is right. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So that may sound weird to our listeners. But that's kind of how I feel now. And with all respect and love, definitely. But uh, yeah, you know, I always working to know you better and better and the harmony you talk about? And is definitely I think it's great, because it's not a harmony where, oh, you know, I have issues with this person. But I'm not going to say anything, because I don't want to break the harmony. It's not like that you actually bring stuff up and resolve it in a very skill, skillful way. And that's something that I've always looked at and learned from you. And that's why you give me the ability to improve my, you know, social skills and things like that. Because, for me, I'm more of an individual, individualistic type of person. Yeah, yeah. And I learned so much from your kind of harmony and community and social aspects. So I really appreciate that about you. And so, you know, you also said that you want to have harmony within the family. That's really great. Yeah. And we do because you really work on it. Yeah. And I'm on board. 100%. Yeah. And so totally agree. And, you know, as we raise our daughter, we can really share that harmony and not sweeping things under the rug. No, bringing it up in a very constructive way. Yeah.
Akko 8:30
Honesty. Definitely. Yeah. Being honest. communicate, communicate, being honest. With love. Right? Yeah,
Tamo 8:39
exactly. And as we grow and mature, I'm sure that we are going to be able to share that with our daughter. So yeah, yes, it's gonna be really nice. So for me, like I mentioned, I'm more of an individualistic, but the way I see life is if I can improve myself, then I can improve myself for the community. Right? So it's not like a selfish like, Oh, it's just about me. It's not that Yeah, but the better I can be. Whatever it is, it might be skills or certain personality aspects that I need to improve on, or whatever it is. The to be able to express my highest self, which means understanding all the traumas and the issues that I had through childhood and maybe even into adulthood. Not letting me Let not letting that pull me down. Yeah. Instead, learning from that and growing, and to be my best self so that I can become the earth. I can continue to improve myself as a husband, as a father, as a business owner, as a leader of the business and whatever it may be, even within friendships, the better and less issues that I bring into the friendship, of course, that will improve harmony. Mm hmm. also improve just the whole kind of dynamic of the group. So that's the most important for me. And so that's why I'm really working to grow myself.
Akko 10:22
Yeah. And, you know, it's interesting, because I admire that about you, how you always work on yourself. And, and that's why I think we make a good team, you know, because I like the harmony of the group. But you like, you work on yourself so that you can be in harmony with the group? I don't know. Does that make sense?
Tamo 10:41
Yes, it does. It does.
Akko 10:42
So and so I've learned a lot from you. I learned to do that trauma work, I've learned to try to be that better version of myself and try to really grow as an individual and better myself to its fullest potential. And even raising the question of, what kind of person do I want to be? I don't know. I don't know if I was
Akko 11:07
when I was young. I, you know, I don't know if I really thought about like,
Akko 11:10
what kind of, or what does my future self like? What do I see her doing? Maybe I did, but maybe I don't think I actually really put it into words wrote it on a journal. Nothing, nothing concrete. So thank you for that. Because you do bring that to the table? And I think it really helps.
Tamo 11:32
Yeah, definitely. I think, as you mentioned, I learned a lot from you in terms of finding harmony, and how to kind of interact with others. And you really opened me up in that way. So definitely, I think that's why we're having unique duck time so that I can Yeah, I'm sure our learnings and Te listeners, if there's anything that you can, you know, take away from this unit Taku or chit chat. Yeah, please do and run with it and make your life as beautiful, as harmonious as peaceful as expressive, as passionate as you want. Yeah. And sky's the limit. Truly, truly. Yes. Yes. So, um, how about going to the next question? All right. So what is your life's work, or a life's purpose? And so another way of putting that is what needs to happen in your life. So that you know, that you gave your gift? And what is it that was uniquely you? What were you here to do? And what was it that mattered?
Akko 12:51
So
Akko 12:53
I think
Akko 12:56
it has to do with love, and I guess my energy of love. So being able to spread that love to everyone. And so that those people that I'm spreading it to can feel loved.
Akko 13:11
With that energy that I'm kind of exuding
Akko 13:16
is something, I value something that I think is my life's purpose, and having them believe that if they're worth it, they're worth being loved on. So that's something that I do think is my purpose in life. You know, I think I have a pretty vibrant energy. So using that vibrant energy and just spreading my love, and having everyone feel that love is something that I believe is my purpose in life.
Akko 13:46
Yeah. So
Tamo 13:47
kinda, you know, I'm just trying to understand a little better, but you're saying that, you know, you have a vibrant ball of love. I totally agree with that. I feel it every single day. And so you want to share that and so you want to share that love with other people so that maybe they can love themselves a little bit? Yeah.
Akko 14:11
You know, that's a better way of saying yes. Okay. Yeah. Let's so they can love themselves more. Yeah. They're worth it. They're worth being there. You know, they're, they're worth it. Right? Yeah.
Tamo 14:24
Yeah. And some insight that I just had is, wow, I said that. So they can love themselves more that that is a kind of an individual way of thinking,
Akko 14:35
Oh, that's true. That's true. But
Tamo 14:37
you know, truth truthfully. If that happens, then they can also share that love to her. And so it's really a portal be a better place. It would, it would,
Akko 14:46
right. Some people I know some people are lacking love. Until you should just come to this to my family. Anyway,
Akko 14:55
how about you?
Tamo 14:57
Sure, sure. So my life's work. life's purpose, and my gifts. Again, it really comes down to expressing my highest self. So it's very similar to what's important to me. And my life's work is to share my highest self. So it's, you know, if you think about, it's very similar to yours. So for you, you mentioned you wanted to share love. For me, I want to share my highest self, which also includes love. Yeah. And I want to express my highest self. And, of course, it sounds very abstract. Oh, what does he mean by his highest self? One way to put at put it is, when you're in a really great mood, you know, things that would bother you, in any other moods can really pass through you very easily, right, you're not going to be bothered by it as much. If at all, or you, you'll probably be able to make a lot better decisions when you're in a really great mood. Yeah, I think something similar to that, but much more. It has more depth than Oh, I'm just in a good mood. So I'm gonna say yes to everything. Not like that. But more. So really coming from a higher place, like what would the most wisest people in history do that type of really high level decision making? Yeah, communication, love, whatever it may be. That's what I would really like to express. And I know things like this is not I reach it, it's not a summit that I reach. It's a mountain that I'll continue to climb, right. So it's not this mountain will never be there will never be a peak. But you can always claim up. And so that's how I see it. So it's a continual discovery of my highest self. And like peeling an onion, you continue to discover discovered meaning uncover? Yeah, I'm taking the word discover breaking up this uncover so uncovering who I really am. Just because for myself, I
Tamo 17:20
see that. As you know, we we are born.
Tamo 17:27
When we're born, you know, we are quite fresh. Some people say tabula rasa, which is the we are born completely clean slate. I don't think that's I think it's both nature and nurture. But as we live in life, we accumulate a lot of trauma. Yeah, yeah. Bad, a lot of bad teachings, incorrect teachings and teachings that really don't serve us as human beings. Right. And after we learned that, getting to a certain point in our development, now, you have to do the opposite. You
Akko 18:06
have to therapy. Yeah. And yeah,
Tamo 18:09
just like you mentioned, in the early part, you know, doing the trauma work, that is very hard. And so also want to, to really feel that I was able to make a positive impact for people who that we we come into contact with. And that's part of the reason we do this podcast too, because we want to share, see, you want to share your love. And I wanted to share my highest self with people. Yeah, if you the listener can take any part of this and make a positive impact in your life. Or maybe it's a little seed that starts to grow, and sprout. Maybe you have a question. Oh, what is trauma work they're talking about or what is this highest self or love? What does she mean by love? I only thought love was when my mom hugs me or love can mean so many things, right? But love is also all encompassing. So I hope that again, if he can take any parts of it, and grow that seed, we would be so grateful and happy for you. Yeah, grateful. Okay, wow. We've been going for quite a bit. I think we've been using Tarquin for quite a bit now.
Akko 19:26
Yeah.
Tamo 19:28
Just we can go into Part Two next time. Yeah. What are your thoughts? Yeah,
Akko 19:32
I think so. And then just kind of continue what we've been talking about going into more details, answering a little more of the questions. And yeah, I think we could
Tamo 19:44
do part two. Sounds good. Yeah. Oh, cool. Thank you so much.
Akko 19:48
Thank you, Tom, for you today. Yeah, thank you so much. And thank you for sharing your gifts, your values, I think. Yeah, again, like You said, If anyone could take anything out of this podcast, and run with it, and maybe even, you know, improve their life just even a little bit. We'd be so grateful and so blessed that we will we were able to touch you.
Akko 20:18
Definitely Set your mind and touch your heart.
Tamo 20:23
And so we will leave you with the question. Ask yourself, what is most important to you
Tamo 20:31
about who I am.
Tamo 20:34
And about being alive? Take your time to think about it. Go deep in what your values are in your life.
Akko 20:42
Yeah, we're gonna post this on YouTube, too. So it'd be great if you can share your values on the comment section. And we would love to read what you value in your life.
Tamo 20:55
Definitely. So to find us on YouTube, just go ahead and search for it. You took the time. We are currently under the channel name. Adventures of team taco. So check us out there. All right.
Akko 21:09
All right. Thank you so much for listening.
Tamo 21:11
All right, take care. Bye